An Important Day

It’s the eve of the one and only bittersweet day of my life. 17 years back ( at 12 midnight), at the age of 5, I became a big sister. I will never forget that day. I had prayed for a sister long enough. And my wish had come true. I remember meeting her so small and tiny and asleep while I just went forward and gave her a quick kiss.

She passed away 4 months later. I’ve never written about this anywhere before,but this is my blog, and I will write. Write that I still love her as much as I did then. And she may have been here for only 4 months but she will be my little sister forever. And the fact that I have an angel for a sister.

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She will be 17 tomorrow and I imagine her to be this practical, athletic, sports loving, hardcore yet soft-hearted amazing girl. The kind that is going to eat cake at 12 for her birthday while dancing and at the same time looking out for me from heaven.

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For the first time, I have a birthday to attend tonight. The new friend’s birthday is tomorrow too. For years now, at 12 midnight, I’ve always had some me and her time. I look at this day to be thankful that I have lovely people around me including her. I hope I can make it through the night without any watery eyes.. I dislike sharing this feeling with other people, face to face that is.. And I hope she lives it up. It’s her last birthday as a kiddo after all.

Sonam Kapoor At Cannes 2013

While Sonam Kapoor’s acting skills may be a little questionable, her style really isn’t. So it’s no wonder people waited to see her appearances at Cannes. You know she’s going to go all out. So see below, my top 3 favorite looks from here this year at the film festival.

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The first one is an Elie Saab dress. I absolutely love it. The second one is a Huemn saree for a round of interviews. I love how chic and simple it is. And the third is a Dolce and Gabbana dress. Loving the drama and the simple hair.

A lot of you might be wondering where is that Anamika Khanna saree? For me, that was an ‘almost there’ look.

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While the saree and the jacket were gorgeous, somewhere, it just got too much. Also, I’m not a fan of the make up. With the nath, the winged eyes and dark lipstick, her face had too much going on.

In Sickness and In Health

I’m not really a person who cries easily looking at things. But this really did get the tears out me quite easily. 

A man who posted about his wife’s (and his too) battle with her breast cancer. I do not know these people and just came across their website today. Really touched me in so many ways. See below a photograph I took from their website. No copyright intended. Just a beautiful and strong picture. In sickness and in health indeed.

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Here’s the link: http://mywifesfightwithbreastcancer.com/

I hope she is in a better place and I hope he never finds any lack of strength.

A Moment Of Prayer For My Blue Sweater

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I bought this sweater last summer with much enthusiasm to wear last winter. Although Bangalore doesn’t get that cold, it does get windy so I figured I will be able to wear it a few times. I waited patiently. December-January-February. Bangalore winter trolled me and this beautiful Vera Moda sweater lies in my cupboard..unused. A moment of prayer so that this sweater accomplishes what it was born to do. Happily be on me.

An Angry Rant and A Question

So around 3 weeks back, Mr. B and I started looking for a web developer for a project. We got talking to one freelance developer and got things going along. Costs were out of our budget, but after certain changes, a tiny bit discount and lots and lots of fund arranging from our side, the costs became manageable.

Annnnd the problem started. He stated that we will decide milestones for the project: Part 1, part 2, Part 3 and so on, and said we will have to pay him the costs of each part BEFORE he starts work on that. So when he’s doing Part 2, and if the amount decided for that is 40% of the cost, we pay him before he starts work.

We understood that he was worried that we would abandon the project midway so agreed to give him an advance. And the payments will reach him as and when he completes the work. 

He still insisted on paying him in advance for every stage. Which essentially, at one point was coming to 25% work completion and 65% payment with him.

And then he said, if it can’t happen this way, it’s best not to take this forward. We responded that we feel the same as our working ideas are different and bam! Comes the most unprofessional message ever!

I sincerely feel I should give you & your Business partner & the whole team behind this project a piece of advice which is necessary which I felt after the overall interactions which we had from last month. Even now its gonna be a full whole month in few days time & now you are coming up with your terms & conditions which I feel No freelancer Would be ready to work on your terms.! This is what I feel.! 
Better even you dont Waste your precious time & even the poor freelancers who will be your next Target.! According to me if you people have these kind of terms & conditions then I suggest you to let the poor freelancer or the developer know beforehand.! Before you proceed deep into your project discussions.! 
According to me if you people have these kind of terms & conditions then I suggest you to let the poor freelancer or the developer know beforehand.! Before you proceed deep into your project discussions.! 
It was a nice lesson learnt personally from me because of the interactions which I had with you guys.!
Lets not continue discussing about some business deal which will not be possible from our end on your terms & conditions.!

Is it just me or was his reply a little rude and uncalled for?

And yes, we didn’t speak into details about payment modes with him because 1. Our energies day and night were directed into getting funds. 2. A lot of the procedure of payment depended upon the final cost. 3. We were getting in funds from somewhere else too. And they follow this norm. So little was in our hands. We did convey the same to him.

Besides, as far as I know, this is the norm. Work gets done. And then payments get made. 

A lot of you here are freelancers. I really want to know, what is the norm you guys follow? I am really curious.

PS: When he says we went deep into discussion, they were discussions to bring costs down and as far as us abandoning him midway was concerned, we had assured him we will not begin without a proper signed contract.